"Boys Will Be Boys" Means Sexual Assault?
In the last few years, the phrase "boys will be boys" has become demonized. People who believe that masculinity and traditional boyhood activities - roughhousing, getting scrapes, playing aggressive sports, competing, and seeing who is the bravest or strongest - have fallen to criticism.
In a blog I recently read, the author has equated the saying "boys will be boys" with sexual assault, drugging drinks, impulsivity, irresponsibility, and women's objectification. In writing, she insisted that the common cliché allows boys to get away with teasing girls, although girls do the same to boys, she fails to mention anything about that. The author takes it a step further and says, "It's the poison that spreads from news stations in sexual assault reports, bleeding into victim-blaming and residing at the very foundation of rape culture."
Rape culture? How? Just because boys tend to fight each other more when they are younger, has nothing to do with rape? Neither does roughhousing, aggressive sports, competition, or bravery. Sexual assaults occur because the offender is a depraved, morally bankrupt individual. It has nothing to do with a saying.
I found a study from 2014 stating they accrued 24-months' worth of data (2010-2012) in five federal surveys taken by the Centers for Disease Control, Bureau of Justice Statistics, and the Federal Bureau of Investigation. Here is an extract from the abstract of the study: "We concluded that federal surveys detect a high prevalence of sexual victimization among men—in many circumstances similar to the prevalence found among women."
The article from Scientific American went on to say, "The results were surprising. For example, the CDC's nationally representative data revealed that over one year, men and women were equally likely to experience nonconsensual sex, and most male victims reported female perpetrators."
Simply put, men are victims of rape or sexual assault nearly as often as women, and many times, the offender is a female.
I am not attempting to push sexual assault against women to the background. In fact, we all need to teach our sons the importance of protecting women. I am simply bringing forth facts, which the left hates, to debunk what the author irresponsibly wrote in her blog.
The scriber for the article thinks we need to scrap the saying "boys will be boys" did not know what she is talking about. She said that she does not like and matched it with sexual assault, making it seem as if when a female is raped, society simply says," Well, boys will be boys" and callously moves on.
The term "boys will be boys" does not mean anything that is portrayed in the blog. She says that the cliché "completely degrades" men of all ages. It actually does the opposite – if you understand the value of men in society and our culture. The saying means that we accept males for who they are. Within us, we have the drive to protect (stepping up for the weak), compete (motivation to be better for others around us), provide (work hard for our family), forthright (honest to improve others), leaders (competent to take others in the right direction).
As far as bad qualities that men have, that does not make masculinity "toxic." It makes them human. Men and women are both capable of causing emotional, mental, psychological, and physical damage.
At the end of the day, we are all humans with faults. The saying "boys will be boys" does not make men who we are. We make the saying what it is.
As always, stay toxic to the left's agenda
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